I help strong women develop their unique talents and gifts
so they can empower others and build abundant wealth
without sacrificing being a great mom.
You are strong, confident, and powerful--and you were created for greatness.
But you don't always feel that way, do you?
I know I sure didn't....and the truth is sometimes I still don't.
No matter where you are right now, you can change your course.
I walked into our military-life-marriage like most people do…
...with stars in my eyes and a conviction that our relationship was definitely not like everyone else’s relationship. You know that feeling, right?
You know that other people struggle and have issues. But that’s not your reality. People tell you that there will be hard times and you maybe even sort of believe them. But your relationship is different and hard times will be handled with grace and ease.
Sigh.
Then life happened. It happened with a vengeance.
We had been married just shy of ten perfect years when we answered the call to adopt.
I didn’t expect puppies and kittens and rainbows and unicorns. I was prepared.
But it turns out that no book can prepare you for things like Reactive Attachment Disorder and PTSD or a myriad of other labels that may never be officially given to your child, but exist just the same. And those adoption books definitely don't tell you that it will destroy your marriage.
I tried everything.
Counseling. Therapies. Finally, I went to a psychiatrist and begged for drugs for our daughter.
I was hopeless.
Nothing helped my child and her behaviors had caused my biological children damage as well. I had a biological child diagnosed with PTSD and adoption was listed as the cause. My marriage was done, though we would stick out well over another decade as barely more than roommates.
To say I was hopeless is a huge understatement.
A friend of a friend helped me find answers for my daughter, but the damage to my marriage was extensive.
Even when my child was getting better, my marriage was not. After Navy retirement, we spent over five years in extremis.
Counselors were visited. Counselors were fired. Lawyers were procured. We ended a 26 year marriage.
But the funny thing about God is that He always shows up.
Not when we want Him to, necessarily, but just in time.
He usually doesn’t show up in the way we expect either.
It took over five years for me to realize the stress I had been living under. The unspoken expectations that I had been blindly trying to meet.
He saved me in ways I didn't even know I needed saving. He used a pandemic to lead me to a church that is family just when I needed it.
Oh, don’t get me wrong. Those first years were great. But now I am older and wiser. I know that marriage cannot be saved by one person. It takes two.
I know now that I am strong enough to be alone.
Strong enough to maybe someday be with someone else, but to have a lot different perspective about what's important.
The best part is that now I can speak, guide and lead from a place of experience.
Whether it’s adoption, child struggles, marital strife, divorce survival, or military life….I’ve been there and I’ve come out ahead.
I believe it’s my calling to be there for others who find themselves in a similar place….of hopelessness, confusion, and loss.
Do you see yourself here? It would be my honor to walk alongside you.
Are you ready to rise up and rediscover your strength?
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Copyright Tanya Robinson
