Where is Your Focus?

Where is Your Focus?
Hey. You. How are you? Hmmmmmmmm…….
Let’s try that again. How ARE you? Like for real? Are you loving life? Are you thriving? Do you get up each day looking forward to what’s next? Do you have goals? Plans that make you happy? Are you thinking of the future? 
Or maybe do you have a seat on the struggle bus right now? Are you having a hard time looking forward to much of anything? Do you find yourself just putting one foot in front of the other?

I confess that I’m a whole lotta both right now. I have done so much personal development in the past 6ish years that I truly don’t stay in the valleys very long anymore. I’ve developed some coping skills. I’ve learned enough about myself to know when I need to change things up……or realize when I’ve forgotten to stick to the routine that keeps me in the center of the road! 
We sold our house in three days. YAY! We had nowhere to go. BOO!
We found a house to rent. YAY! It’s only available for two months. BOO!
It’s on a beautiful island in a lake. YAY! There is a gator. BOO!
It’s quirky and cool and the kids love it. YAY! I drive a minimum of four hours a day now. BOO!
We are building a new house. YAY! The site plan isn’t approved. BOO!
Life is just full of light and dark, good and bad, mountain tops and valleys. So, what do you do when things seem out of control? I don’t mean hypothetically. I mean for real. What do you actually get off your heiny and DO? Here are a few of the things I do.


Clay and I took a walk around a beautiful lake this weekend. After all, it’s called Lakeland for a reason, right? It was lovely and we got to spend time together outside while we moved. Lakeland is our home only for a few weeks and it’s a charming little town. We are going to find a new lake to explore this weekend. And yes, we’ll keep our eyes open for gators, because…..Florida wildlife is big and scary.
As I’ve mentioned before, Clay loves breweries. The vibe. The relaxing atmosphere. We have noticed a lack of fear of the virus in these places, too, which is a blessing to us. I’m pretty sure beer kills viruses anyway. (wink wink) Out of all our time in Florida, our favorite brewery is in Lakeland, so we are enjoying spending time there right now. It’ll be a bit of a drive again soon enough.
I forgot to do my oily routine a couple of days in a row. Big mistake. HUGE. A quick lesson as to why they work. Everything in the world has frequency…..including you and me. When our frequency drops, we feel crummy. When it drops further, we get sick. When it plummets, we die. No. Really. It’s not a joke. 
Oils also have frequency. Pick high-frequency oils and you will support your body in raising your frequency. Certain oils have frequencies that match particular body organs, parts, or entire systems, which is why we have favorite uses for them. 
But you don’t have to know all that. You can just pick the ones you like and use them and know that it’s good for you. I oiled up this weekend when I was feeling particularly yucky and within minutes (I’m not making this up) I felt like the sun came out.

Typically (but not particularly right now) I would like to take a drive. Something about a change of scenery makes everything feel a little better. Drive alone and crank up Hamilton in your car. It certainly works for me, although this morning I got distracted by my desperate attempt to master rapping Guns and Ships and missed my exit…..detours are good. 
Music is an easy way for me to keep my mood in check. Recently I switched back to listening to Contemporary Christian music. The music on the other stations is okay, but the talk between was not edifying in any way. Even just the benign stuff was affecting me. I turned back to Joy FM and found that the same DJ I listened to every day ten years ago is still there. It was like coming home.
I’ve also plugged back into a faith community. After weeks (maybe even months) of prayer about whether to go, God whispered something I didn’t expect. For now, I’m back at my old church and attending with Clay, which is such a nice blessing. I love this church for so many reasons, and it’s lovely to be welcomed back.

Lastly, I offer the advice of my father in law. Look around. There are always people who have it worse off than you. Always. Don't stop at just looking, though, you will be blessed if you find a way to help. Recently I was reintroduced to this song by Matthew West. Have a listen!

Do any of those things resonate with you? Leave me a comment and tell me what you do when things feel heavy. Let’s encourage and inspire each other!

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun! (So do boys!)

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun! (So do boys!)
When was the last time you had some fun? 

While the past several months have been exhausting for many people, you can make 2021 a better year by adding everyday fun, hobbies, unique interests—and even “bucket list” adventures you’ve dreamed of your entire life. I struggle hard with just stopping to have fun. There is always another chore to be completed. But the older I get, the more I recognize how fleeting time is and how I need to slow down and enjoy the journey!

“Fun” is one of The 7 F’s of Oola, and today we’re going to talk about how much fun you have in your life (or how much you need to add in order to create a life that’s happy and balanced).

If you’ve been following my posts recently, you know that—right now—you have a unique opportunity to make 2021 better than the crazy year we’ve just been through.

If 2020 has caused you to re-think your lifestyle, your finances, your health, your relationships and your future, we should jump on a call to discuss exactly what you want 2021 to look like. It’s what I help clients with, and it would be my honor to work with you, too.

Let’s schedule some time to chat soon. You can sign up for a 30 Minute Discovery Call. Or, go here to read more about the 10-week Oola Coaching Program before we jump on that call.

For now, let’s see how much fun you’re having in your life—and decide whether you need to add more.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the amount of fun you have in your life? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:

•. I would rate my fun in life............................ ____
•. I enjoy and am having fun in life.................... ____
•. I try new things often.................................. ____
•. I invest time pursuing my passion or hobby..... ____
•. I have fun outside of work at least 3x per week ____
•. I do at least one “bucket list” item each year... ____
•. I am a fun person to be around..................... ____
•. Fun rarely interferes with my responsibilities.. ____
•. People would say that I’m a fun person.......... ____
•. I easily find free fun in simple everyday life..... ____

Coaching can help you rediscover fun hobbies, unique interests, and even your true passion in life . . . a major stepping stone on the way to living the OolaLife. 

Message me and let’s chat about your next step. 

Do you love your J.O.B?

Do you love your J.O.B?
Are you happy, growing and balanced in your career? Do you need to make a change in 2021? This past year has been a wake-up call for many people—and not always in a bad way.
For instance, if you were isolated at home for 8 weeks, perhaps you discovered how much you love the calm environment, slower pace, and being at home with your kids full-time. If you were furloughed or laid off, maybe that gave you pause to think about what you really want. 

Whatever your wake-up call was this past year, why not commit to making 2021 better than ever?

I’ve mentioned The OolaGuys before. Their book and coaching program, Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced Worldteaches a simple formula for creating a life that’s balanced, happy and growing.

I’ve been sharing a series of quizzes that Oola uses to pinpoint where you are and what you need to work on. If you have missed some, be sure to go back and check them out. Today, the assessment focuses on your Field—one of The 7 F’s of Oola.

On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your career (field)? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:

•  I would rate my overall job satisfaction........... ____
•  My job financially meets my needs................. ____
•  I love my job............................................... ____
•  I feel as if I am doing what I was created to do.. ____
•  I have solid goals for myself in this field........... ____
•  My current job doesn’t interfere with 
     my family and personal time......................... ____
•  My job makes the world a better place............ ____
•. My job utilizes my natural gifts and abilities..... ____
•. My current job can support my 
.. long-term financial goals............................... ____
•. My job offers the opportunity to grow 
.. personally, professionally and financially......... ____

How does your scorecard look? If you want to improve it, I’m here to help. Together, we can make sure you’re focused on getting what you want and on pursuing new opportunities with confidence. In fact, you can make massive progress in just 10 weeks with the Oola Coaching Program—delivered jointly by The OolaGuys and me. 

I have a J.O.B. that I love. It doesn't feel like work. It's not tedious or monotonous. It's rich and rewarding and I know you can find that sweet spot, too.

Message me and we can jump on a 30-minute call to discuss how coaching can work for you. Or check out the 10-week Oola Coaching Program for details.

Just for fun, drop a comment below and share your most important career insight.  

Is it time for a new plan of action?

Is it time for a new plan of action?
Can you believe it? 2020 is almost over. Which makes these final months of the year your best opportunity to make sure 2021 is more balanced and more abundant. If you are like most of the world, this year has felt a bit chaotic and haphazard.

If you’ve been following my posts, you know that I’m big into getting what you want in the 7 major areas of life. It’s something I learned from Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl—The OolaGuys—who teach how to create balance in our unbalanced world.

Now, as a Certified Oola Life Coach, I help clients address what’s not working for them in the areas of fitness, finance, field (career), family, faith, friends and fun. Then we go to work correcting those stressors and bringing about the lifestyle, relationships and financial security you need to be happy, balanced and growing. Because, after all, who doesn't want to be happier, more balanced, and growing in all the right directions?

Two Months to Go: What Will YOUR 2021 Look Like?

With October winding down and this whole crazy year almost behind us, people are starting to call 2020 a wash. The Lost Year. An epic fail. But before you give this year the heave-ho, why not spend the last couple of months of it deciding what you want your next year to look like? Why not start putting the tools in place to make 2021 so great that you don't give 2020 another moment of negative energy?

Whether it’s make more money, be home with your kids, improve your marriage, have fun, get healthy, or something else – the Oola formula gives you the steps to get there. The key is to decide where you need to make changes, write out your wish list, and start taking small steps every day toward 2-3 goals at a time. It’s a three-step process that’s part of the 10-Week Oola coaching experience that I offer to my clients. 

The reality is that you can have anything you want, but you need to start focusing somewhere. Follow my next few posts and you’ll have a wish list of things that will transform how you live—and even who you are as a person.

Have some ideas of what you want already? Whatever your wish list includes for next year, drop a comment below and share it. Maybe some of those dreams and wishes feel so big that you don't feel like you can even put them to words. (Pssst....they are NOT too big!)

The Oola formula can be a big help toward getting there—so if the 10-week Oola coaching experience is something you’d like to pursue as 2020 winds down, message me and we can jump on a 30-minute discovery call to explore the idea of working together on your goals. I’m here to help 2021 be a breakthrough year for you.

A Great Day

A Great Day
Today was a great day. I took 3/5 of my kids to Orlando. We spent an obscene amount of money eating at Fogo de Chao Brazilian Steakhouse. Have you been? My friend, Jean, introduced me to this chain in Scottsdale, AZ about three years ago. I’ve now been to three different Brazilian Steakhouses and none compare to this one. 
If you haven’t been, oh my word. Find one. Plan it. You will NOT regret it. Matthew and I have started a little fun tradition that it’s simply always his birthday when we go. Today he turned twenty. Ha. I know it seems childish and silly, but you know what? I bet it’s being etched in his memory. That’s a good enough reason for me to do it! Make memories with your kids. The silliest things will become great memories for them!

After we ate our weight in meat, we spent a couple groupon vouchers at a 7D gaming location. We shot zombies and creepy circus clowns. Wren is a serious competitor and left the facility with a nasty blister on her nub. For the record, there was clearly something wrong with my gun because I’m stupid good at shooting games. There is NO CONCEIVABLE WAY that I finished last in both games! 
Included in our groupon was a picture of us playing during the game. I wore a dress and there was wind and a lot of crazy movement. Can I just say that there were times that the photograph could have been taken that I would have been semi-pornographic? I was thankful that we were the only ones playing and the photograph did not reveal my undies!

We rode the sky wheel (a GIANT ferris wheel that goes high enough to see both Kennedy Space Center and the ball at Epcot) and watched Matthew get totally freaked out by the height. To be fair, it was really scary high. Hogwarts and Cinderella’s castle stacked on top of each other high. We were only about 1/3 of the way up with Matthew started to lose his shiz. Wren, however, has zero fear, which is somehow even scarier than a kid that has enough sense to be terrified of heights.
The area of Orlando we were in was new to us. We saw lots of other cool things we would like to do. Madame Toussand’s, an aquarium, pirate miniature golf, and the Shake Shack were just a few of the things that we will return to experience. We saw a man who was either a member of the Orlando Magic team or was tall enough to be. I mean, seriously……he was creepy huge.

I’ve been re-evaluating the seven F’s of OOLA since becoming a coach. The truth is, I totally suck at Fun, Finance, and Fitness. I might’ve taken a step in the wrong direction for finance today because I spent a lot on that lunch. But I took a step in the right direction for Fun. We had a great day. A truly great day. A nothing-particularly-special kind of day, but a day to remember because we were happy, the sun was shining, and we were together.
There were so many laughs. There were pictures with real smiles. The lunch was incredible. It was the third birthday Matthew has celebrated this year. 

Another bonus? I’m in charge of the next getaway weekend that Clay and I take every 6-8 weeks. I found a new place to go with loads of fun things for us to do! Shhhhh…..don’t tell him! I can’t wait to surprise him with a brand new location and brand new activities! If you aren’t actively working on your marriage, you are passively working on your divorce. Take that advice seriously. Seriously.
How about you? What constitutes an incredible day for you? Who is involved? Are you like me? Do you typically just do the same garbage over and over? What would life look like if you broke out of the ordinary? 

Not sure how to do something different? I literally just looked at the Groupon app and searched for activities in my area! I was just trying to get inspiration for something an 18, 14, and 11 year old might all like. And you know what? The day was nearly perfect. Go have yourself a day with people you love. They will be so thankful and you just might make a memory!