Life has been pretty challenging for most of the world over the last year, hasn’t it? Are you wondering how to be happy again? Do you feel a little lost right now?
Stress management has become ever increasingly important. The rise in technology has given us access to information and friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers 24/7. I’m not here to tell you what I think about whether technology is a good thing or a bad thing. It’s like the weather. It simply is. What I am here to talk about is the stress and anxiety that comes from being always “on.”
We have to learn how to navigate this technological world without being consumed by it. Self-care has to become as much of a habit as picking up our phone to scroll. I’m as guilty as anyone, by the way! Even as I type this, it’s 6:20 am on a Saturday. I woke up with a desire to work, which isn’t a bad thing when you work at home and quiet time is rare. But, it wouldn’t be a bad thing to be snuggled up in bed with my Honey and puppy either.
Here are three ways we can utilize the technology that can be the bane of our existence (whether we admit it or not) and use it in a way that builds us up, encourages us, and helps us be better humans.
Number 1: Audible
Before I had a dozen babies, I was a voracious reader. (Okay, I only have five, but when they were all under ten years old, it felt a lot like a dozen some days.) I love books and tend to focus on nonfiction. My personality says that I should utilize my time wisely and not waste it on frivolous things that don't teach me anything. (No need to lecture me here. My English major daughter has that covered.)
A few weeks ago, I realized that I wasn’t doing anything to unwind. I thought, “maybe I could find some fiction to listen to while I walk.” I asked for a set of AirPods for Christmas, linked those puppies to my Apple Watch, and BOOM! Full disclosure: I’ve listened to exactly one book that was really just an autobiography…but it WAS NOT non-fiction. It was riveting and kept me walking longer each day. Sidenote: Matthew McConaughey is not hard to listen to.
I got more exercise than normal and I got to shift gears in my brain! Alright, alright, alright!
Number 2: Exercise App
I don’t care what type of exercise you do. Time spent moving is not spent in front of a screen.....or at least that screen time doesn't count. People are doing all kinds of things with technology that helps them move more. If a peleton bike isn’t in your budget, there are plenty of free or super cheap apps you can use!
I like the freebie that comes on an iphone, but surely androids have something similar. Look for the Health App with a heart on it. Check your movement chart. OOOPH. Hopefully it is not a sad awakening.
Look back over your last week or month and note your average number of steps. Decide on a goal for the next month. Maybe a 10% increase? 25%? Focus on doing that for the next month!
Want to do more? Explore! There are apps for everything from yoga to running to HIIT workouts! When you set it up, be sure to say yes to notifications so you have that extra little push to shut your phone up!
Number 3: Podcasts
Find a podcast that you love and makes you feel better. No, not one for work. Not one on investing. Not one on the latest marketing trends. Those are all fine and good, but I want you to find at least one to subscribe to that is just for you because you like it. I have a friend that listens to true crime stories while she walks. Not my cuppa tea, but you do you!
I’ve struggled to find things JUST FOR ME. My enneagram 1w2 personality (we’ll talk about that in a future blog or blog series if you aren’t familiar) means that I tend to give everything of myself to everyone else and leave an empty bucket for me.
Right now, I’m not listening to a podcast, per se. I’m listening to one of my favorite priests. Father Barnabas Powell is a Protestant convert to Eastern Orthodoxy. I liken him to Friar Tuck, only without the drunkenness. Father Barnabas has an amazing gift of being witty and fun while getting right to the point. His messages have been a balm to my soul.
Find something that you could refer to as a “balm to your soul” and make it a priority in your life.
Do you have tricks for utilizing technology to your advantage? I’d love to hear them! Leave a message below so everyone can benefit!
P. S. In case you were worried about the aforementioned abandoned puppy, he toddled out halfway through this writing and is snuggled happily on my lap. Pets are a pretty awesome stress reliever, too. I highly recommend. Five Stars.
When was the last time you had some fun?
While the past several months have been exhausting for many people, you can make 2021 a better year by adding everyday fun, hobbies, unique interests—and even “bucket list” adventures you’ve dreamed of your entire life. I struggle hard with just stopping to have fun. There is always another chore to be completed. But the older I get, the more I recognize how fleeting time is and how I need to slow down and enjoy the journey!
“Fun” is one of The 7 F’s of Oola, and today we’re going to talk about how much fun you have in your life (or how much you need to add in order to create a life that’s happy and balanced).
If you’ve been following my posts recently, you know that—right now—you have a unique opportunity to make 2021 better than the crazy year we’ve just been through.
If 2020 has caused you to re-think your lifestyle, your finances, your health, your relationships and your future, we should jump on a call to discuss exactly what you want 2021 to look like. It’s what I help clients with, and it would be my honor to work with you, too.
Let’s schedule some time to chat soon. You can sign up for a 30 Minute Discovery Call. Or, go here to read more about the 10-week Oola Coaching Program before we jump on that call.
For now, let’s see how much fun you’re having in your life—and decide whether you need to add more.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate the amount of fun you have in your life? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:
•. I would rate my fun in life............................ ____
•. I enjoy and am having fun in life.................... ____
•. I try new things often.................................. ____
•. I invest time pursuing my passion or hobby..... ____
•. I have fun outside of work at least 3x per week ____
•. I do at least one “bucket list” item each year... ____
•. I am a fun person to be around..................... ____
•. Fun rarely interferes with my responsibilities.. ____
•. People would say that I’m a fun person.......... ____
•. I easily find free fun in simple everyday life..... ____
Coaching can help you rediscover fun hobbies, unique interests, and even your true passion in life . . . a major stepping stone on the way to living the OolaLife.
Message me and let’s chat about your next step.
Friends. We couldn’t have gotten through this year without them.
Are you singing along with the title of the blog? I bet you know the song! And I bet it makes you think of a certain friend or two. At least I hope it does. Everyone needs a friend or two that sticks with them through the sticky stuff. And this year has had some sticky stuff, right?
If the past several months have made you value friendships and connection, I have a question: what would your life look like if your closest friendships were even more solid and supportive?
And what if you added some key friendships like mentors who could guide you in making difficult life or career decisions. Friends just make life better.
In fact, “Friendships” is one of The 7 F’s of Oola—the proven formula created by Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl, authors of Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World. We’ve teamed up to bring my followers the 10-week Oola Coaching Program to help you make goals, stay focused and achieve the happy, balanced and growing life you want.
But let’s take a look at your current friendships.
Where do you need to improve?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your friendships? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:
•. I would rate my social network of friends......... ____
•. I have unconditionally loving, supportive, and empowering friends............................... ____
•. I am satisfied with the number of friendships in my life.................................... ____
•. I am a good example/mentor for my friends..... ____
•. My friends support my dreams and are good examples/mentors for me................ ____
•. When I think of my three closest friends, I have no stress........................................... ____
•. I openly communicate and trust my friends...... ____
•. I have friends who are good mentors in all 7 F’s of Oola........................................ ____
•. I have no hard feelings or ill will toward my present friendships................................. ____
•. I am not judgmental toward my friends........... ____
If you need to upgrade your friendships—plus stay focused and accountable to your other life goals—I’m here to help. Together, we can make sure you’re disciplined—with new habits and behaviors that propel you toward your goals.
As I’ve mentioned before, the Oola Coaching Program is designed to support you in making massive progress in just 10 weeks. I’d be delighted to privately coach you through the process.
Set up a 30 minute Discovery Call for more details. But for now, drop a comment below and share something about your friendships you want to upgrade.
For many people, 2020 has tested their belief, their faith, and their daily walk with God.
Have you noticed? It always seems that we look for answers or support whenever there’s a major upheaval in our lives . . . and, so far, this year has brought plenty of turmoil.
As part of my continuing series, I’ve been introducing you to a series of self-assessments that Dr. Dave Braun and Dr. Troy Amdahl—The OolaGuys—use in the popular 10-week coaching program we conduct together. Now I’d like to share another one with you about your faith.
“Faith” is one of The 7 F’s of Oola—those major life areas that all our problems, happiness, improvement, and challenges seem to fall into.
Is your faith strong? Or could it be stronger?
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your faith? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:
•. I would rate my faith.................................... ____
•. I feel connected to a higher purpose............... ____
•. I am plugged into a faith community and continue to learn/grow................................. ____
•. I spend at least 20 minutes a day in meditation and/or prayer.......................... ____
•. My beliefs and the way I live my life are congruent............................................. ____
•. I use my faith to help resolve conflict and issues in my life..................................... ____
•. I reflect on my faith often throughout the day.. ____
•. I forgive easily............................................. ____
•. I rely on my faith to guide my choices and my decisions......................................... ____
•. I feel comfortable sharing and teaching my faith to others........................... ____
While The OolaGuys don’t tell you what to believe or which religion to follow (and neither do I), we DO know that having a strong faith is a critical part of a balanced and happy life. What I have found is that if the biggest thing you believe in is yourself, you will struggle to find contentment, happiness, and peace. We simply have to live for something bigger.
If your life could be better in every area—fitness, finance, family, field, faith, friends and fun—I’d like to invite you to have a chat about the 10-week Oola Coaching Program.
Message me and we can jump on a 30-minute call to discuss it.
It only takes 10 weeks to make massive progress. Let’s work together to make that happen!
Are you happy, growing and balanced in your career? Do you need to make a change in 2021? This past year has been a wake-up call for many people—and not always in a bad way.
For instance, if you were isolated at home for 8 weeks, perhaps you discovered how much you love the calm environment, slower pace, and being at home with your kids full-time. If you were furloughed or laid off, maybe that gave you pause to think about what you really want.
Whatever your wake-up call was this past year, why not commit to making 2021 better than ever?
I’ve mentioned The OolaGuys before. Their book and coaching program, Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World, teaches a simple formula for creating a life that’s balanced, happy and growing.
I’ve been sharing a series of quizzes that Oola uses to pinpoint where you are and what you need to work on. If you have missed some, be sure to go back and check them out. Today, the assessment focuses on your Field—one of The 7 F’s of Oola.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your career (field)? If you answer “1,” that means low/bad/least true, while answering “10” means “high/good/most true”:
• I would rate my overall job satisfaction........... ____
• My job financially meets my needs................. ____
• I love my job............................................... ____
• I feel as if I am doing what I was created to do.. ____
• I have solid goals for myself in this field........... ____
• My current job doesn’t interfere with
my family and personal time......................... ____
• My job makes the world a better place............ ____
•. My job utilizes my natural gifts and abilities..... ____
•. My current job can support my
.. long-term financial goals............................... ____
•. My job offers the opportunity to grow
.. personally, professionally and financially......... ____
How does your scorecard look? If you want to improve it, I’m here to help. Together, we can make sure you’re focused on getting what you want and on pursuing new opportunities with confidence. In fact, you can make massive progress in just 10 weeks with the Oola Coaching Program—delivered jointly by The OolaGuys and me.
I have a J.O.B. that I love. It doesn't feel like work. It's not tedious or monotonous. It's rich and rewarding and I know you can find that sweet spot, too.
Message me and we can jump on a 30-minute call to discuss how coaching can work for you. Or check out the 10-week Oola Coaching Program for details.
Just for fun, drop a comment below and share your most important career insight.