Where is Your Focus?
Hey. You. How are you? Hmmmmmmmm…….
 
Let’s try that again. How ARE you? Like for real? Are you loving life? Are you thriving? Do you get up each day looking forward to what’s next? Do you have goals? Plans that make you happy? Are you thinking of the future? 
 
Or maybe do you have a seat on the struggle bus right now? Are you having a hard time looking forward to much of anything? Do you find yourself just putting one foot in front of the other?


 
I confess that I’m a whole lotta both right now. I have done so much personal development in the past 6ish years that I truly don’t stay in the valleys very long anymore. I’ve developed some coping skills. I’ve learned enough about myself to know when I need to change things up……or realize when I’ve forgotten to stick to the routine that keeps me in the center of the road! 
 
We sold our house in three days. YAY! We had nowhere to go. BOO!
 
We found a house to rent. YAY! It’s only available for two months. BOO!
 
It’s on a beautiful island in a lake. YAY! There is a gator. BOO!
 
It’s quirky and cool and the kids love it. YAY! I drive a minimum of four hours a day now. BOO!
 
We are building a new house. YAY! The site plan isn’t approved. BOO!
 
Life is just full of light and dark, good and bad, mountain tops and valleys. So, what do you do when things seem out of control? I don’t mean hypothetically. I mean for real. What do you actually get off your heiny and DO? Here are a few of the things I do.

 

Clay and I took a walk around a beautiful lake this weekend. After all, it’s called Lakeland for a reason, right? It was lovely and we got to spend time together outside while we moved. Lakeland is our home only for a few weeks and it’s a charming little town. We are going to find a new lake to explore this weekend. And yes, we’ll keep our eyes open for gators, because…..Florida wildlife is big and scary.
 
As I’ve mentioned before, Clay loves breweries. The vibe. The relaxing atmosphere. We have noticed a lack of fear of the virus in these places, too, which is a blessing to us. I’m pretty sure beer kills viruses anyway. (wink wink) Out of all our time in Florida, our favorite brewery is in Lakeland, so we are enjoying spending time there right now. It’ll be a bit of a drive again soon enough.
 
I forgot to do my oily routine a couple of days in a row. Big mistake. HUGE. A quick lesson as to why they work. Everything in the world has frequency…..including you and me. When our frequency drops, we feel crummy. When it drops further, we get sick. When it plummets, we die. No. Really. It’s not a joke. 
 
Oils also have frequency. Pick high-frequency oils and you will support your body in raising your frequency. Certain oils have frequencies that match particular body organs, parts, or entire systems, which is why we have favorite uses for them. 
 
But you don’t have to know all that. You can just pick the ones you like and use them and know that it’s good for you. I oiled up this weekend when I was feeling particularly yucky and within minutes (I’m not making this up) I felt like the sun came out.


 
Typically (but not particularly right now) I would like to take a drive. Something about a change of scenery makes everything feel a little better. Drive alone and crank up Hamilton in your car. It certainly works for me, although this morning I got distracted by my desperate attempt to master rapping Guns and Ships and missed my exit…..detours are good. 
 
Music is an easy way for me to keep my mood in check. Recently I switched back to listening to Contemporary Christian music. The music on the other stations is okay, but the talk between was not edifying in any way. Even just the benign stuff was affecting me. I turned back to Joy FM and found that the same DJ I listened to every day ten years ago is still there. It was like coming home.
 
I’ve also plugged back into a faith community. After weeks (maybe even months) of prayer about whether to go, God whispered something I didn’t expect. For now, I’m back at my old church and attending with Clay, which is such a nice blessing. I love this church for so many reasons, and it’s lovely to be welcomed back.

Lastly, I offer the advice of my father in law. Look around. There are always people who have it worse off than you. Always. Don't stop at just looking, though, you will be blessed if you find a way to help. Recently I was reintroduced to this song by Matthew West. Have a listen!

 
Do any of those things resonate with you? Leave me a comment and tell me what you do when things feel heavy. Let’s encourage and inspire each other!

1 Comment

  1. Mary Beth Farmer  01/20/2021 02:07 PM Central
    Thank you

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